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Lust
May Cool, But Passion Can Be Rekindled
(NAPSA)-Lust may cool, but passion can
be rekindled. Over time, couples may take each other for granted
because they feel comfortable together. But feeling comfortable
doesn't mean giving up exciting feelings. To keep love alive in
later years, partners need to make some effort to continuously
nurture their relationship.
- "Treat each other as new"
Couples initially try to impress one another, ask questions
and listen attentively. They want to know everything about
each other and think of fun activities to do together. As
years pass, many stop asking questions, fall into a rut, and
take each other for granted. The solution: Treat each other
like new lovers eager to intrigue. Don't assume you know
everything; there is always more to learn.
- "Make love not war"-Instead
of focusing on what has always bothered you, think of new
things to appreciate. Stop during an argument and abruptly say
or do something nice. It may feel unnatural at first, but it
will break your fighting pattern.
- "As if"-Instead of
complaining about how things are not the way you want, act
"as if" they are. This may sound like pretending,
but it works. Acting as if things are a certain way makes it
more likely they will actually become that way. Why continue
in a pattern that makes you unhappy? Be willing to be
satisfied.
- "The way we were"-Go back in
time and relive the relationship at its best. Remembering and
reliving good times revives good feelings and helps you
initiate new positive patterns.
- "Making time"-As you get
older, you create patterns about how you use your time. If
these activities have drawn you apart, schedule specific time
together. Make time at the beginning and end of every day for
a hug and sharing feelings. And make extended time to be
together several times a week.
- "I still do"-Create a special
event to restate your vows to each other. In this recommitment
ceremony, explain your devotion in detail. Exchange a gift to
seal the renewed loving deal.
To read other articles by Dr. Judy, you can
visit the Web site at
www.matureamerica.org/just_for_
women
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